Photo by Emily Long
I suppose it’s only appropriate to start with introductions. My name is Alexis and I am a married Millennial. I have been in a relationship with my husband, Justin, for eight years and married for one. We were married on 10.11.12 (see what I did there?) and we are seven years apart. I am 26 and he’s 33. The age difference has never been a concern, although it’s raised some questions. But that’s another post.
Me being a Millennial, married to someone who doesn’t identify as such, is actually annoying. This is the part where I try not to bash my husband or make you think he sucks, because he doesn’t. However, I plan to be honest.
Is marriage boring? It certainly can be if you let it. At times I find myself wishing I were single living in D.C. in an overpriced closet, drinking on a Tuesday. However, to combat those feelings, I look into travel plans or group dates to meet new people. #MillennialProblem number 1… my husband hates going to Arlington (expensive bar scene) or D.C. (expensive lounge scene), and that’s where people my age are hanging out! So compromising between the local smoky watering hole and the glitzy downtown life is tough and causes stress between us at times. It’s something we still work on.
Are we cool? Hip? Jiggy with it? No, absolutely not. We binge watch Netflix, rent Redbox frequently, and don’t miss “TV night” (Law and Order: SVU say whaaat). I question if that is the path I want so soon in life. I’m lucky if I’m not falling asleep by 11:00 PM. It’s okay, you can judge me. I have conflicted feelings on where I’m supposed to be in life with my husband. Pregnant? On my second child? Since he’s older than me, should I hurry up and settle for things? It’s an ongoing struggle, but I’m figuring out what works for us (and me) everyday.
I don’t consider 26 young to be married, but I do know, being a Millennial and married is different. No, I don’t have dinner on the table every night. No, I don’t expect my husband to support me while I know nothing about our financial situation. No, I won’t be quiet when adults are talking! That one is a little extreme, but you get the idea. Marriage is changing and I’m learning that everyday.