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The Nonsensical Story of Attraction

He had this funny way of smiling. His bottom row of teeth would show instead of his front ones, and his eyes would almost completely close. He wore one of those thick…

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Finding What I Deserve

I consider myself to be a strong, independent, and successful woman. My family and schooling were structured around having high standards, where resilience and self-respect were essential components of daily living.  These ideals…

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Defining True Love

I never expected to meet the love of my life my freshman year of college, much less that we’d be living together a year later. I definitely didn’t mean for this to…

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What I Want My Sister to Know About Love

I solemnly pulled another tissue from the box bedside and handed it to my sister. After all, one of the unofficial responsibilities of being a big sis is emotional support during breakups….

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Following In My Mother’s Footsteps, Sometimes

Blue Ivy flicks her wrists, her hands waving wildly– she woke up like this, too. Since birth, we’ve absorbed our mothers’ influences, perhaps without intending to. Our mothers are our first models for…

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Why They Don’t Love You

There are two reasons why they don’t love you. The first reason is because he or she doesn’t feel it. This reason breaks both our heart and our ego. They don’t love us…

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The Happiness and Heartbreak of a Summer Romance

Last summer was my last one as a college student before officially graduating in December and making my way into the scary real world. I knew I wanted to make it memorable,…

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Wanting What We Can’t Have

What is it about not being able to have something that makes it so much more appealing?  This concept isn’t limited to relationships. Swearing off carbs?  I’m sure a jumbo bowl of…

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Embrace Being Smitten

A friend of mine is seeing a guy from her hometown, and she’s so smitten. Smitten is a dumb word that I rarely feel is appropriate, but I can’t think of another…

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It’s Never Just a Crush

I know it’s getting really bad if I’m sitting next to my phone and I sense its presence, detest its stillness, loathe the screen’s darkness. I mentally will the phone to ring,…

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Love and Ex In The City

I waited outside the hilariously tacky trailer park lounge in my New-York-young-professional outfit. It was a Friday night, and I kind of wished I was dressed in theme for the bar. I…

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The Power of Understanding in Relationships

I used to think that punishing bad behaviour in relationships was the only way to teach the other person what was acceptable versus what was not. That’s how I was raised. I…

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I Really Like You, But I’m Scared to Tell You

Here I am in the mirror, psyching myself up for the big moment: “Can I talk to you about something?” No, don’t start like that. He’ll think you’re about to say you…

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The One I Want Beside Me

So, last night I had my first post-breakup drunk texting episode. These are the facts: 1. I didn’t text my Ex. 2. I did text 5 other Boys. 3. 1 of those…

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Love Fading Through the Distance

Across 3,000 miles, she was reduced to a shell of herself. No one told her that between the witty texts and swapped photographs, the whole magic of a person could be lost….

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Holiday Relationship Compromises

Everyone always thinks it’s wonderful to have a boyfriend for the holidays. To have that special someone to go look at Christmas lights with, exchange presents, and of course to show off…

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I Hate Dating

I hate getting my hair cut. I hate getting my nails done. I hate walking into stores with helpful sales associates. I hate chatty waiters and waitresses. I also hate dating. And…

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The Lessons I learned After Losing My Mom

  My mom passed away when I was ten, and I was devastated. Sixteen years later, I can look back and see that I learned some incredibly valuable lessons during that difficult…

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The 30 Day Self Love Challenge

When I was just seventeen years old, I decided it was time to pursue my dream of being an actress. I packed up my bags and moved from my quaint, little home…

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I Want You to Want Me

“So, what are we doing?” Her heart raced more asking this question than it did from any of their other interactions – whether she was trying to look like she wasn’t watching…

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My Own Best Friend

After every breakup, my mother has told me the same thing, “you have to find your own happiness.” In my wisdom, I would scoff and think to myself that I am happy…

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I’ve Never Been in Love

I’ve never been in love. In fact, I’ve never really, properly, been asked out. Men don’t seem to feel like approaching me unless they are either drunk out of their mind or…

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The Breakup Book

Over the past few months, whenever I tell someone new that I wrote a book, one of his or her first questions is, “What’s it called?” “The Breakup Book: 20 Steps to…

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Instant Mom

Nia Vardalos is stubborn. I know this because she admits early in her memoir, Instant Mom, that she went through the emotionally and physically draining process of in vitro fertilization 13 times….

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Confessions Of A One Date Wonder, Or How I Learned To Remove The Word Rejection From My Vocabulary and Not Take Dating Personally.

GREAT NEWS EVERYONE!! My psychic told me this week that my soul mate would be coming in to my life within the next three months because I no longer have wounded bird…

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Knocked Up – Legal Edition

I read an article somewhat recently on Slate.com, by Jordan Weissman, entitled For Millenials, Out-of-Wedlock Childbirth is the Norm. My interest was peaked when Weissman wrote, “a team from Johns Hopkins University…

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Jumanji: The Millennial Dating Game

This post is published in collaboration with bSmartGuide.com.  bSmartGuide.com is a community platform for young professional women featuring curated content to help you live your best life and provide the expert advice…

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How to Stay Sane While Planning a Wedding

  There might be easier things than managing the wedding planning process, like passing a kidney stone, watching Miley Cyrus do math, agreeing with Glenn Beck, and sitting through all seasons of…

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Why It’s Not Okay to Go Dutch

The two of us are completely lost in engaging conversation over dinner. The Chilean sea bass was delicious. My second glass of Riesling has eased initial first date jitters and I’m able…

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He Is The Boy Your Heart Won’t Get Over

You remember him because he is always there, distant but never completely gone. You keep him in the creases of your sheets, between the pages of your books. You sometimes like to…

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The Nice Guy Is Not Always The Right Guy

I was an orange blur, furiously focused on getting past my boyfriend’s desk without looking at him. My eyes were trained on the turn for the bathroom while my mind was consciously…

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This Year, I’m Celebrating My Late Sister’s Birthday

On April 5th, 2009, my older sister Céline died from cirrhosis after a prolonged struggle with alcoholism. She was 30. Five years later, sadness still knocks me over whenever I’m reminded of…

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All Types of Love

I met Bruiser in 2006. It was not by choice. My sister and her then boyfriend had adopted an AKC-registered American Pit Bull Terrier. Solely relying on hearsay, I questioned her decision…

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I’m a Planner

For the past four years I have been on the move from Chicago to Milan to New York, oh my!  I have been chasing my educational and career dreams all over the…

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Insight Into a 70 Year Marriage

How do you make a relationship last? That seems to be the age-old question.  Actually, I’ll change that.  How do you make a relationship last AND still enjoy the ride?  Or, if…

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30 Things I Want You to Do

  30 things I want you to do, in no particular order…. 1) Bring me soup when I’m sick. 2) Hold my hand when it’s cold. 3) Hold my hand even when it’s…

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Embracing the Contradiction

I’m a super logical person. The feedback I actually get from people is that I’m hyper-rational, which suits my line of work. (I hope – I’m going to be a lawyer. For…

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Unforgettably Yours

Timing is everything. For the last three weeks, I’ve been convinced that time has been consistently screwing me over. You and I have been stumbling around the same college town for a…

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Preserving What Matters Most

  I realize that anything worth having usually comes as a result of great effort, persistence and hard work. The harder I have worked for something, the more I cherish it. As…

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When you call me bro….

I love(d) the way you just assumed I was one of your bros. It was an express ticket into your world; a world I (so desperately) wanted to be part of simply…

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You Make Me Feel Stupid

You make me feel stupid. You make me toss out all logic. Like we throw out used items, I threw out logic like it was waste. In an instant, reason went from…

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A Declaration of Love to My Besties

I’m a girl’s girl without question. I mean, do I like hanging out with my guy friends? Of course; the testosterone is nice, but nothing compares to spending time with my like-minded…

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Not S-Compatible

Dating in your late 20s is not like dating in your teens or even early 20s. Everyone expects you to have settled down already, and some look at you as if you…

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The Gentleman Lives

In recent months there has been quite a bit of traffic on the wireless and in the newsreels dealing with young women lamenting the death of the gentleman.  It seems that nary…

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Falling Out Of Love

You’re not sure if it was a culmination of small annoyances or a glaring character flaw that made you fall out of love. Maybe no one ever knows. Just like how you…

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The Dangers of Social Media in Litigation Land

Technology and social media can have a wonderful impact on your relationships.  I don’t need to tell you how Facebook posts, tweets, Instagrams, Pinterest boards, photo streams, and regular old e-mails and…

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New Fashioned Dating

At torturously long last, it appears that spring has arrived. The birds are (tentatively) chirping, flowers are groggily blinking into bloom, and my feet are demanding their first pedicure of the season….

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A Charmed Elephant To Help Me Move On

It was Labor Day weekend almost 4 years ago.  I was at the beach with my parents, spending a few lazy days looking out onto the ocean, eating delicious food and catching…

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The Heart Break Syndrome

I had my heart broken about a year ago. It was a tremendously painful experience. It was the type of pain I would not have believed existed had I not experienced it…

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Are you Going to Bring your Husband?

I struggle with the idea of how tethered you are supposed to be to your significant other. I know couples that never leave each other’s side, and the only time you get…

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The Night I Put My Heart on the Line

There was a night when I put my heart on the line.  Ok, that sounds uber dramatic, I know. But trust me.  If you knew me beyond the words you are staring…

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Almost Loving You

Almost loving you was quite possibly the most painful experience of my life. It was most definitely more painful than getting my heart broken. Being so close to love but never actually…

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The Ever Difficult LDR

I started dating my boyfriend when I was a freshman in college. He was a junior at the time so the day eventually came when he graduated and I had two more…

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So there was this Summer

So there was this summer. And this person I once knew. He meant something because he was the first person I had sex with without being in a relationship. To me, this…

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Two Become None

One night over cocktails, a dear friend of mine who is now married was reminiscing about his once very single life to my BFF and me.  “I look at dating like it’s…

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Why Contentment Is Enough for Now

Being 27 is something I have always wanted. It seemed like the perfect age to me because I obviously would be engaged to a very successful man, have a very successful career,…

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The Prenup: Good Idea or Weird One?

Three and a half weeks to go until the wedding.  Everything is planned, all of the response cards have come in, you are looking forward to your bachelorette party, and have started…

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Oh, You’re Married

I suppose it’s only appropriate to start with introductions. My name is Alexis and I am a married Millennial. I have been in a relationship with my husband, Justin, for eight years…

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Unrealistic Love Story #1320942: Meeting Him at a Coffee Shop

When it comes to love, I know that I have a lot of unrealistic expectations. But most women do, right? Thanks to the movies, falling in love looks as simple as bumping…

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My Amble to the Altar

Four years, six months and nineteen days ago, I met the most handsome, smart, loving man I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. Alex was the popular college Senior, the all-star…

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Once Upon a Time…Again

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship from age 19 to 26, and then six weeks before you were supposed to get married you break up and find yourself suddenly in…

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Trains, Planes and Facetime

I once considered crossing the river from Manhattan into Brooklyn too much of a trek for a boy.   Yet, in my quest to find the right guy in New York City, I…

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A Love Letter with a Lesson

I pulled out my box. Every girl has a box. That one that you hide under your bed or in your closet. It is full of letters, pictures and memories. I pulled…

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My Own Plus One

I was inspired while catching up with a dear friend today who happens to be the culprit behind my recent veganism and resembles a Victoria’s Secret model, but I digress.  She also…

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Engaged? Celebrate! And then schedule a consultation with a matrimonial attorney.

  I was engaged and married in my late 20’s. I spent hours in Kleinfeld’s looking at wedding gowns, hours looking at venues, hours (in person, on the phone, and by e-mail)…

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Loves Me, Loves Me Not

“I have been dating since I was 15, I’m exhausted, where is he?”- Sex & the City This is the ever-famous question of Charlotte York in “Sex & the City” and I…

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My Quest for “True Love”

When I was 15, one word changed me forever.  A boy called me a “Shrek” to one of my friends who then told me.  I remember the feeling so vividly, looking in…

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Gluten-Free, Suddenly

I come from a big bread-eating family. It’s all about pasta, dinner rolls, biscuits, English muffins (any muffins, really), cakes – you name it. So it came as a culinary surprise and…

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Tindering the Distance

Our Tinderella is taking a road trip. And by road trip we mean she bought a plane ticket to fly from DC to LA to take a chance on love and meet a…

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Keep Calm and (Online) Date On

In the era of natural and organic everything, why does it seem impossible to meet people that way anymore? I have joined the league of women who can no longer date from…

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Hey, Tinderella. Let’s Chat.

This is not OKCupid. It’s not Match.com. It certainly isn’t Eharmony. And it’s definitely not Plenty of Fish. This.  Is.  Tinder. Call it take-out dating if you will, window shopping even, but Tinder…

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The Perfect Story

We had the perfect story.  One of those you are asked to tell so many times it becomes an act, and you begin to envision his best man telling at your wedding. …

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Give it to me Straight

I should have known it when I saw the “Carly Rae Jepson” playlist on his Pandora that my milkshake would not bring him to my yard. And that’s how it began on…

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Single Girl Thoughts

I honestly don’t remember the last time I was single. I’m dating back to kindergarten, folks, when a boy got in trouble for buying me Miss Piggy earrings. Then there was first…

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The Little Black Dress

“Is it time to make the dress yet?” Mom asked Lola (meaning “grandmother” in Tagalog).   Mom was excited to help my grandmother put together a dress for her high school dance….

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A Lollapalooza Romance

I grew up in a very traditional home and while I wouldn’t exactly call my upbringing strict, I will say that according to my mother, you don’t even answer the phone without…

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Learning to Appreciate Different Types of Men

When it comes to dating, many people consider themselves to have a “type”.  Take a moment and think about the traits you look for in a partner.  Maybe you’re an all American…

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The Woman Behind the Curtain

We all have issues.  We are all a little bit crazy, for whatever reason.  Each and every one of us has a past – baggage that we instinctively know to keep in…

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Ghosts of Boyfriends Past

Oh, the joys of dating.  In case my sarcasm isn’t coming through, you should know I am not a fan of the dating game.  Fortunately for me, my new, single relationship status…

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My Unofficial Family

When we were 24, we moved to New York City together.  We sublet a tiny apartment in SoHo; just the two of us and my cat in a cramped, noisy apartment. We…

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She’s Dating the Same Guy

It’s been approximately two years and one month since the downfall of my long-term relationship started, and two months since I’ve officially let go of our on-again-off-again toxic romance and quit obsessing…

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Even at This Stage

When some relationships end, it’s hard not to wonder if the time you spent with that person was wasted. Especially “at this stage.”  I hate that phrase, by the way.  Apparently “this…

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Something Worth Fighting For

Just keep marchin’ on. That’s something I’ve found myself saying a lot these days.  I’ve never believed that we have a say in who we fall in love with.  If that was…

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Date Nite NYC

They say you only get one chance to make a first impression.  In the complex New York dating scene, we all know that we judge our suitors by what they look like,…

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Modern Love

Dearly beloved, I am here to talk to you about love. Not the big showy kind that Barbie and Ken have, all plastic and perfect in their dream house with a myriad…

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The Daterview

When you become single after a long relationship, one of the many changes in your life is an abundance of free time. And how you fill that free time is up for…

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Which is better, a dog or a boyfriend?

Pamela Redmond Satran is an author, former columnist for Glamour, creator of the famous list, “30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30” and still a Quarterlette at…

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Accepting My Own Path

This past Saturday I had the privilege of holding a three-week-old baby girl.  The reaction of my friends to this story is typically a combination of coos of delight and jealousy.  My…

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Date Me In The Face

Hi, we’re Carolyn and Meg, survivors (so far) of dating in our 20s.  When we met, we immediately bonded over our ridiculous and sometimes painful dating and sex experiences.  Realizing this was…

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Fool Me Twice

There is only one thing worse than being rejected, and that is being rejected twice. By the same person. In my case, my bruised ego’s need to one-up indirectly led to a sprained…

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Some Final Goodbyes

On my second to last night in San Francisco, I took a cab from my apartment in SOMA to the almost unreachable neighborhood of Nob Hill. “No time for buses, walks, or…

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Crossing Borders – Tales of Office Dating

My grandmother, a young nurse, met my grandfather fresh out of medical school in New Orleans working in the hospital.  While working as a teller in Atlanta, my mother met my father,…

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‘Shout Her Lovely Name’ Review

Photo: Alice Plati Lord knows mother/daughter relationships are complicated.  I happen to have a mutually loving relationship with my own mother and found it hard to imagine one that is truly strained…until…

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Remembering Rosie

Two weeks ago, during an otherwise typical Thursday night, my Mom called to tell me that my 16.5 year-old curly haired poodle, Rosie, was put to sleep that morning.  I received no…

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An Unusual Resistance to Dungarees

Worldwide, Multiple Sclerosis is thought to affect more than 2.1 million people.  In May 2011, Nadine Friedman set out to meet some of them.  She traveled the US with a camera, a…

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Three Reasons I Left New York

There’s a good chance you’ve read the trending articles “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All”, “The ‘Busy’ Trap”, and “All the Single Ladies” and agreed with the sentiments, reflected on your own situation, and then continued with your routine.  As…

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How To Feel When Your Ex Boyfriend Becomes a Male Model

  My ex-boyfriend is now a male model. Okay, he’s not like a runway model, but his picture is on photography blogs and some hipster clothing websites. My friends send me links…

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An Expat’s Reflections on the Big 25

Turning 25 in sunny Spain sounds like fun and fiesta, right? Well, the truth is that life as an expat is far from a permanent vacation and my “big 25” this year…

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The Big Fluffy Elephant in the Room

I often write about the sunny side of married life, and while yes the good outweighs the bad, I would be lying if I told you that there are not difficult times….

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Connecting with “GIRLS”. Connecting with Myself.

Like any other twenty-four year old female with the means to procure an HBO subscription, I was eagerly anticipating the arrival of “Girls”.  The program had already been heralded as the younger…

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Goodbye, Paris

“We’ll always have Paris.” —Humphrey Bogart, Casablanca It was like being in a movie—something so utterly and completely unreal that it makes you feel like you’re constantly hallucinating. I remember talking about…

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Confessions of an Unlikely Bridesmaid

No one really prepares you for the reality of it. How heavy that damn dress is going to be. How you better not let your smile slide for even one millisecond, or…

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A Love Story

Part 1: Could Be A Quarter-Life Crisis… Mine is not a success story. Mine is a let’s-see-if-this-works story. A close-your-eyes-and-hope-for-the-best story. Mine is a love story. I hope you’ll see me and…